Cute Game to play when seducing someone

Penny, Nickel, Dime. Ask her if she has any change, a penny, nickel, and a dime (so you don't look too prepared). If not, you have them randomly anyway. Put the 3 in her hand with the penny closest to her. While holding her hand in yours, say:

"Benjamin's mother had 3 children: Penny (point to the penny), Nicholas (point to the nickel), and ... who? (point to the dime)"

The correct answer, of course, is Benjamin (since it was *his* mother with 3 children and the other two are Penny and Nicholas). Generally, she'll start off guessing something that sounds like dime, such as Demetrius. Each wrong answer, I pull in closer, tease her a little, then whisper the exact line closer and closer to her ear, getting more intimate each time.



After she finally gets it, you can high five and let the hand hold linger ...

10 More things not to do when meeting women

11) NOT WITHDRAWING (back turns, etc) WHEN SHE DOES SOMETHING THAT YOU WOULDN'T TOLERATE FROM AN UGLY GIRL OR A GUY -- trying too hard to pick her up

12) ANSWERING QUESTIONS TOO QUICKLY/EARLY -- too much interest in theconversation

13) TURNING YOUR HEAD (OR "SNAPPING") WHEN YOU'RE ADDRESSED -- too eager to be in convo.. so if your head is facing the other direction, and a girl says something to you, turn it SLOWLY to her, don't snap it out of eagerness to hear her

14) GOING BACK TO A PRIOR THREAD THAT WAS INTERRUPTED AT THE FIRST CHANCE/BREAK-IN-CONVO THAT YOU GET -- trying too hard to impress them.. (ie: when a thread gets broken off in the convo, and you go back to it FIRST chance you get when the other topic ends, you look like you were WAITING to get back to it.. WHY are you so eager to get back on it, unless you don't feel comfortable around the person and you need to qualify yourself to them?) WAIT until THEY say "what was that you were saying before?", and THEN
go back to it.. if it doesn't happen, *DROP IT* even if it was good.

15) NOT APPEARING MORE INTO YOUR WINGMAN THEN THE CHICK -- trying too hard to pick her up.. you've known your wingman longer than her.. why do you pay more attention to her than your wing???




16) TOO EAGER TO PAY ATTENTION - SAYING "what?" IF YOU CAN'T HEAR HER, PRIOR TO BEING IN RAPPORT -- too much interest in what she's saying.. if she mumbles, just STACK OPENERS into an entirely DIFFERENT topic, RATHER than saying "what?" This is KEY KEY KEY. If you say "what?" you'll lose her unless you're already past attraction and into rapport. If this happens, just run a new opener and change the topic. 1- you don't look too eager, 2- you look alpha for being disinterested in what she's talking about which helps anyway.

17) REPLYING WITH OVERLY THOUGHT-OUT OF LOGICAL ANSWERS OR WITH OVERLY CLEAR/FORMAL PRONUNCIATION -- being concerned that you won't be accepted unless you convince really well (eg. HB: why did you ask me that... RIGHT = I'm talking. (sit and stare) WRONG = because I really need to know since I've been thinking about this for a while.. the FIRST one conveys that you won't qualify yourself to her)

18) TAKING TOO MANY SENTENCES TO STATE AN IDEA THAT COULD BE STATED IN LESS SPACE -- qualifying yourself. "Remember, don't write what you can say, don't say what you can wink, don't wink what you can smile" TIGHT. The shorter you can explain something in, the more PROFOUND you'll appear. Why? You're not qualifying yourself.

19) BEING BOLD INSTEAD OF CONFIDENT -- that you know that you can't pick her up, so you compensate with self-defeating actions so that the snub can be on "your terms". Saying "I'm sexy right?" or "baby I want some of that" or even just approaching when the logistics are totally unrealistic is too eager, because a CONFIDENT person wouldn't feel the NEED to say these kinds of things.. these things are symptoms of OVERCOMPENSATION for INSECURITIES..which leads to..........

20) OVERCOMPENSATING INSECURITIES -- fear of not being accepted. Have you ever met a janitor who the first thing he says is "money is over-rated.. I would never get caught up in the corporate world" blah blah.. if they'd have just said "I'm a janitor" and LEFT IT AT THAT we wouldn't have even THOUGHT that anything was wrong with it.. but because they INSTANTLY start overcompensating, it comes off as overcompensating or qualifying. Same with if they BRING IT UP TOO EARLY. Like "hey, I'm Steve.. I'm a janitor and I love it".. They're TRYING to be cocky but it comes off as COMPENSATING. BE COMFORTABLE WITH YOURSELF. If you're BALD, don't say "would you love a bald man?" as a pickup line. It's not COCKY.... its BOLD. If you're bad looking, don't say "don't you think I'm sexy". Just be comfortable with yourself, and don't bring up the issue at all.

10 Things not to do when meeting women

1) FIDGETY MOVEMENTS AND TIGHT SHOULDERS AND TAKING YOURSELF TOO SERIOUSLY OR BEING TOO BUSINESSLIKE OR "SOPHISTICATED" (not laughing or being relaxed) -- very visible subconscious (or conscious) self-doubt, overcompensating through non-relaxed state, where you're prepared to deal with anything that could happen. Ever met someone who doesn't blink when you talk to them?

2) TALKING TOO FAST -- worried that people will stop listening to you unless you get out something that will interest them before they leave.

3) LAUGHING AT YOUR OWN JOKES -- covering up that you aren't affected that others didn't laugh, and social nervousness.

4) SAYING "RIGHT" OR "YOU KNOW" AFTER STATEMENTS -- seeking validation that what you said was true, or saying it because others aren't.

5) STANDING WITH LEGS NOT HALF A METER APART AT LEAST -- worried that you'll infringe on other people's personal space.



6) TALKING TOO SOFTLY OR LOUD -- fear that you'll impose yourself on people and their personal space (ie: beta).. alpha males aren't afraid to project their voice.. YET, talking obviously too LOUD can also be seen as OVERCOMPENSATING. Just like guys who wear GENERIC clothes are trying to fit in, or guys who wear OUTRAGEOUS clothes are trying too hard to overcompensate. (hint: be careful with peacocking, find a style that doesn't come off this way, which can be tricky but is still very doable).. Some guys don't talk, some talk too much, etc etc.. Find appropriate balance through trial and error, which is determined through social observation.

7) MOVING YOUR HANDS AROUND WHILE YOU TALK -- trying to keep the attention of the group (sometimes can be cool, but most often a form of qualifying yourself).

8) LEANING IN *or* 'PECKING' -- too eager to talk.. NEVER lean in no matter how loud the environment is MAKE HER LEAN IN or just leave but NEVER lean in or "peck" as its also called.

9) FACING BODY/FEET TOWARDS HER BEFORE SHE EARNED IT -- trying to gain rapport with her too eagerly.

10) CHASING WHEN SHE WALKS AWAY -- hoping she'll listen. If a chick moves away from you, move your body language MORE away from her, so she'll be drawn back.. don't CHASE her.

Good Driver Opener

This opener needs to be combined with some bold body language. Generates a good laugh and an easy transition into story telling/comfort. If delivered playfully enough, you can get many IOIs (Indicators of Interest).


Approach set confidently. Pick central spot among group.

You: Hey guys/girls, tell me, are you good drivers?

Girls: Yes/No/Why, blah, blah, puzzled looks

You: Well, me and my crew are planning to rob the bank down the road tomorrow! We hear end of week salaries have just been paid in, so we expect a lot of loot. We need a skilled getaway driver to drive us from A to B!

Girls: ha ha ha/you are crazy/blah blah

You: Seriously, we will also need a second person to pilot the helicopter when we get to B!

Girls:ha ha/blah blah

At this point, if set is seated, separate and sit between them. If near the bar, grab seat or position yourself between the girls, back to the bar, hands spread on sides, in a very relaxed posture. By now, you will be in a comfortable spot to continue with more material

Classic Pickup Opener by world famous PUA Style

Style: Hey guys, let me get your opinion on something. I'm trying to give my friend over there advice, but we're just a bunch of guys and not qualified to comment on these matters.

Girls: What?

Style: Okay, I've only got a sec. See Wing over there? Well, he has been dating a girl for three months. And she just moved in with him. Now, this is a two part question. So, imagine you've been dating someone for three months. And he is still friends with his old girlfriend from college. How do you feel about that?

Girls: blah blah blah are they just friends blah blah blah

Style: Yes, they're just friends. There's nothing else going on. They talk like once a week at most.


Girls: I think its fine / I don't think they should be talking / whatever
(At this point, Style has been body rocking out of the set. Now he rocks back in to continue the opener.)

Style: Okay, now let's say that he has a drawer in his apartment. And in that drawer he keeps all of his old photographs and letters. Now, some of those letters happen to be from ex's and some of the photographs happen to be with ex's.

Girls: blah blah blah concerned comment blah blah question

Style: It's not like he ever looks at them. They are just there, like old souvenirs and memories of his past.

Girls: I think its fine / I think he should put them away in a closet / He should destroy them / whatever

Style: Okay, the reason I'm asking is because Wing's girlfriend says she doesn't want him to talk to his ex from college at all. She wants him to cut it off completely. And she wants him to destroy all of his old photos and letters from ex's. She says it's just holding onto the past, and he should let go of it now. Personally, I thought it was extreme and a bit insecure. But what do I know. I'm a guy. And, as we all know, guys think differently from girls...

Girls: [excited responses]

Style: OMG, this is just like watching the View...

PUA Issues solved

Anxiety is a defense mechanism. It exists to protect you from abnormal behavior. Consider a high steel worker. These guys stand on two foot wide beams hundreds of feet off the ground. They're strapped in, but their body doesn't understand that. The first few weeks are hell.

After that, it's no big deal. Heights don't bother them. Their body has accepted heights as a feature of the environment. It's normal to THAT person. Buddy of mine worked high steel a decade ago. Said the heights were nothing to him at the time.


But he's afraid of heights now. Because HIS ENVIRONMENT CHANGED. He doesn't work high steel. He's not SURROUNDED by his anxiety any more. To him, heights are ABNORMAL now, when they were NORMAL a decade ago.

Approach anxiety is a collection of anxieties. Fear of talking to strangers. Fear of interrupting people. Fear of running out of things to say. and Fear of looking dumb (social pressure).

Talking to Strangers
Talking to strangers is the most common. In our hunter/gatherer days, this kind of behavior could get you killed. We don't live in a tribal society any more, but our bodies doesn't understand that. Our biological programming is from the olden days.

If you do not talk to new people EVERY DAY, how do you expect to sarge at the bar? You're body will fight you. It will protect you. Unless you acclimate it.

I picked up a pamphlet on breaking habits on the trip to Vegas. It takes 21 days to form or break a habit. If that's true (and it sounds about right), it takes three weeks to overcome approach anxiety. By talking to strangers EVERYWHERE.

That means on the bus, at the gas station, line at the coffee shop, airplanes, work, restaurants, etc. Talk to a new person EVERY DAY.

Understand that if you STOP being a social creature for any length of time, approach anxiety WILL RETURN.

If lunch-time street approaches are an option, take a walk on your lunch break and open 3 sets. Open and eject if you're not up to stacking material. This will make bar sarges WAY easier. It'll slowly remove the anxiety of talking to strangers.

Fear of interrupting people
Personal Skeleton. We are raised from birth to be polite. To be considerate of other's feelings, opinion and past-times. We are a sensitive society. We're also a wussy society. The alpha man DOES take others into consideration. But he doesn't hesitate to give people the gift of his or her reality.

Why are you worried about interrupting people? Switch places with your target. If you were talking to friends and a supermodel in lingerie interrupted you, would you be pissed? Fuck no. I don't care if I was about to solve world piece.

Women are ALWAYS receptive to their knight in shining armour. Walk in, be the cool guy, and don't care about their conversation. Hell, tease them about it. After you reach the hook point apologize for interrupting and offer to leave. They'll drag you back.

These people lead boring lives. They wake up in their boring bed, they drive to a boring job in their boring car and they hang with their boring friends and talk about how bored they are.
You're not interrupting ANYTHING IMPORTANT. Not at a bar, not on the bus and not in the casino. It's your reality. Everyone else is along for the ride.

Fear of running out of things to say
I hear a lot of people saying 'I hate routines, I just want to talk normal.' Here's the thing. You're not getting laid. Why would you talk normal. Use the damn routines until 'normal' to you is 'attractive' to women.

Routines are normal conversation from someone else. Someone good with women. You're wearing the skin of successful PUAs until you develop your own.

And don't worry about forgetting what to say. It continues to amaze me how, out of nowhere, a routine I haven't used in six months drops into my head in set. Listen to your instincts on this one. If you're in set and a routine comes to mind, USE IT.

Fear of looking dumb
Women are more sensitive to this than guys are. Your body is protecting you from being outside of the norm. Being normal and boring is SAFE. Being Alpha is DANGEROUS. You are CONSTANTLY being fucked with. You are CONSTANTLY proving yourself by reacting to shit tests, cock blocks, etc.

How do you deal with it? If you're comfortable in your own skin, then you have nothing to fear. So what if your top hat looks funny. You like it. You don't care if anyone else does. Your mindset is apathy. It's your reality.

Hell, you're trying to figure out why everyone's wearing polo shirts and khakis. Looks ridiculous. Far as you're concerned, they should ALL be wearing top hats. 'Cause then you can wear khakis and stand out.

Where will I find time for all these girls?
Easy. DON'T WORRY ABOUT IT. What a lame fucking excuse NOT to approach. I won't talk to a girl because there's a 1% chance she might become my girlfriend? Focus on the process.
You don't have to timebridge the girl. And even if she's your thing, there's a good chance you'll fuck it up. I've met hundreds of women. And a dozen of those were completely my type. Totally compatible.

Am I upset I couldn't close them? A little. But I keep finding more. 2000 women turn 21 (or any other age) EVERY DAY in this country. Don't worry about fucking it up with one girl. Focus on learning from that girl so you don't fuck up the next one.

This kind of anxiety is all about outcome dependence. Don't worry about where the sarge goes. Worry about how well you sarge. Doesn't matter if you get a bullseye on the shooting range once in a while. Make it happen EVERY time.

Experience
The best answer I have to Approach Anxiety is to remember all the fun times you had after you ignored it. After a few good sets, you'll think back to your favorite right before you open your first set of the night. And bam, with good memories comes good energy.


Party on. And happy hunting.